Bodyline... WHY YOU DO THIS?!

I admit, I'm totally a fan of Bodyline. Not everything that comes out of them is that good, and of course they'll always have those questionable items, but it's been established among the Lolita community for a while now that they do have some nice items for decent prices, too. For a jobless student like myself, cheap Lolita is a godsend.
I always looks forward to Bodyline's updates. There's always a couple "crap" items with cheap scratchy lace or are way too short, but it's always nice to see some of Bodyline's new sweet prints and maybe even buy them, if I have the money. But, a couple of days ago, I wandered onto Bodyline's website and noticed there was an update on April 7th. Excitedly, I clicked the link to peruse the newly added items, and...
Wow. Just wow.
And not in a good way, either!!

Cheap lace, nasty prints, short skirts and satin all around!!
Is Bodyline truly going back to catering to the cosplay/fetish market? I've had my suspicions that they might be slowly erring away from Lolita for a while (I don't think their last update had many suitable Lolita items either...), but there was hardly anything suited for Lolita at all in this update. I saw socks that could work in sweet and one blouse that a super-experienced Lolita could replace the lace on and use for ero-Lolita, or possibly hime if they've got the imagination. But that was all.
Honestly, if Bodyline ends up leaving the Lolita market altogether and goes back to making those lace monsters they used to be infamous for, I'll be upset. Sure, there will always be Fan Plus Friend and Anna House (though even that seems to be declining in quality lately!) Bodyline was where I got my first dress from, and will always hold a special place in my heart.
That being said... I guess I should just start looking harder for a job. :P

Slut Shaming

In addition to being a lolita, I am a raging feminist. When I tell people this, they tend to raise an eyebrow, eyeing my frilly dresses and cutesy accessories. Most people don't question me to my face, though I can tell what they're thinking: "How can THAT be a feminist? She's the girliest thing I've seen all day!" I know, because one or two people have asked me basically that after I told them this. My response is this:"I dress for myself, not for any man. I wear these clothes because I like them, not because that's what society tells me I should look like. After all, that is what TRUE feminism is, in my opinon: the idea of a woman living out her own life doing whatever she'd like, not necessarily with a significant other in the equation, without being ridiculed or looked down upon (Of course, men should be able to do the same thing, but they have far less problems with sexism). If that "something" I'd like to do with my life is dress up covered head-to-toe in ultra-frilly clothing, and I support other womens' rights to do what they would like with their own life, I am a feminist."(That being said, has anybody ever actually met a man off the street who finds lolita attractive? The only people I can think of who would find lolita immediately pretty are creepers, and who honestly thinks anyone would dress up for them? :P)That being said, when I say a woman should be able to do what she wants in life, I mean EVERYTHING. So, one thing that makes me extremely angry is slut shaming. I've heard so many so-called "feminists" scoff at a woman's outfit because it is tight-fitting/revealing/etc, which I could understand if said woman was at a school or another place where you are required to cover up, but whenever I hear this uttered it's usually at a place where it is acceptable to show some skin. Worse yet, if a woman gets raped and she was dressed like a "slut," then some people might say she deserved it because she was "asking for it"! Saying ANYBODY deserves to be raped is the worst thing that a person can say. NOBODY "asks" to be raped, and likewise NOBODY deserves it. If somebody is sexually harrassed or raped, it seems like if the woman was doing ANYTHING wrong (including wearing "slutty" clothing) then the people who actually committed the heinous crime don't matter anymore, because it was ALL the woman's fault. Whenever I hear somebody victim-blame like this, I just want so say "NO. Go back to step one and TRY AGAIN you sick bastard." Saying this will immediately make me lose all respect for you.So, next time you go to call some celebrity or that girl on the beach a "slut," just remember that you are setting back feminism, and you really ought to be ashamed of yourself if you consider yourself a feminist. If women can have the right to dress frumpy, or over-done, or in pretty much anyway, why is being "slutty" such a bad thing?

New blog!

Hello! My name is Kaley! Some of you (though probably very, VERY few) may remember my old blog, frillyparadise.blogspot.com . Now, what's the story, you may ask? Why would I start a blog and then a new one just right after I started actually updating? Actually, the answer is very simple, if a bit embarassing. I found that after about ten minutes I didn't really like the name "Frilly Paradise." This is probably because I'm one of those people who doesn't plan ahead for these sort of things so I just kind of made crap up when they told me to come up with a blog name. Still, I attempted to continue with that blog, convincing myself I'd warm up to the name, but it's just... not working out.
So yes, the stupidest reason of all time for starting a new blog: a name change! Since this is JUST a name change and I don't really have much on my old blog right now, what I'm going to do is add all the old posts from that blog to this one (so like, two :P). If you read my old blog at all (probably not because I did NOTHING to promote it xD), then you know the drill. If not, then welcome!
In this blog, I will discuss many things (including some personal affairs should anything interesting happen!). However, most posts will revolve around my all-time favorite topic-- lolita fashion. Now, I don't want to go into a whole "lolita fashion for dummies" post, so if you honestly have no idea what lolita is, or are picturing it as a fetish thing (protip: it isn't), then please visit some of the links I'll provide at the end of the link to get an idea of what lolita is! It is truly a beautiful fashion and well worth a visit to any of those sites! I will probably also get into other fashions that relate to lolita (ie, mori girl, fairy-kei, aristocrat, kodona), though those will probably be more introductory posts for people who haven't reallly heard of those fashions, as I myself still have so much to learn about all those adorable fashions, including lolita to an extent!
Based on the name, you should be able to figure out that I am also a raging feminist, even if I do insist on dressing in frilly things as often as I can (which some people seem to find anti-feminist, for some reason :/). As such, this blog will also have quite a few posts on feminism. If you are a man and reading this, though, don't worry! I am anything but a man-basher. I don't think men are entirely responsible for every trouble women encounter- just the few bad ones who probably will not be reading this blog. I believe feminism is about women (and men!) being able to choose what they want in life without being ridiculed or hurt for their beliefs.
So, for anyone who sat through this entire introductory post (get used to it; I tend to write way too much!), thank you, and I really hope you continue to read and enjoy my blog!