Slut Shaming

In addition to being a lolita, I am a raging feminist. When I tell people this, they tend to raise an eyebrow, eyeing my frilly dresses and cutesy accessories. Most people don't question me to my face, though I can tell what they're thinking: "How can THAT be a feminist? She's the girliest thing I've seen all day!" I know, because one or two people have asked me basically that after I told them this. My response is this:"I dress for myself, not for any man. I wear these clothes because I like them, not because that's what society tells me I should look like. After all, that is what TRUE feminism is, in my opinon: the idea of a woman living out her own life doing whatever she'd like, not necessarily with a significant other in the equation, without being ridiculed or looked down upon (Of course, men should be able to do the same thing, but they have far less problems with sexism). If that "something" I'd like to do with my life is dress up covered head-to-toe in ultra-frilly clothing, and I support other womens' rights to do what they would like with their own life, I am a feminist."(That being said, has anybody ever actually met a man off the street who finds lolita attractive? The only people I can think of who would find lolita immediately pretty are creepers, and who honestly thinks anyone would dress up for them? :P)That being said, when I say a woman should be able to do what she wants in life, I mean EVERYTHING. So, one thing that makes me extremely angry is slut shaming. I've heard so many so-called "feminists" scoff at a woman's outfit because it is tight-fitting/revealing/etc, which I could understand if said woman was at a school or another place where you are required to cover up, but whenever I hear this uttered it's usually at a place where it is acceptable to show some skin. Worse yet, if a woman gets raped and she was dressed like a "slut," then some people might say she deserved it because she was "asking for it"! Saying ANYBODY deserves to be raped is the worst thing that a person can say. NOBODY "asks" to be raped, and likewise NOBODY deserves it. If somebody is sexually harrassed or raped, it seems like if the woman was doing ANYTHING wrong (including wearing "slutty" clothing) then the people who actually committed the heinous crime don't matter anymore, because it was ALL the woman's fault. Whenever I hear somebody victim-blame like this, I just want so say "NO. Go back to step one and TRY AGAIN you sick bastard." Saying this will immediately make me lose all respect for you.So, next time you go to call some celebrity or that girl on the beach a "slut," just remember that you are setting back feminism, and you really ought to be ashamed of yourself if you consider yourself a feminist. If women can have the right to dress frumpy, or over-done, or in pretty much anyway, why is being "slutty" such a bad thing?